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Hello everyone.
Wish you a healthy year.
I have an immigration question.  it's a long, painful and awful story but  I  have to tell you the circumstances in order to understand the situation.
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I met my partner online 15 years ago. We were in our mid forties (43-44-). I left the USA with my corporate job to come to be with me. The relationship has been great for 4 years. We never got into an argument, I never could express myself because he is not talkative and  he always avoids conflict.
Things got a bit challenging after the honeymoon was gone. I had to learn the language which he never helps me. He has never made any effort to help me integrate...but I did.  He doesn't have friends resulting I don't have. He doesn't interact with his family except when I leave for visiting mine in the USA. He always wants to be with me. He kept me his exclusivity in a way that I really think it was the big love. He doesn't let me use the car that we bought together. He doesn't let me have my own car either, he said we do not need 2 cars. He has 2 motorbikes, multiple watches, 4 bicycles.
He likes to buy me extremely expensive clothing so I can parade with him when we go strolling on the street.  I am not comfortable with all of that but I did it to please him.
I learned Dutch in order to have a government job, I volunteered for the London and Rio Olympics, I was involved in my community , helping the refugees to give me some fruitful sense to my life besides him and when he works in shift.
Everything we do it's always together? Riding bicycle a lot. Rarely he will go to the movies with me or the restaurant because he doesn't like that.
He said that he doesn't stop me to have friends but he will not go with me when invited  for dinner that leads to I can't invite them over. I felt also embarrassed.
We visited 27 countries that I prepared from A to Z.(with my own money). It was an arrangement since I do not contribute to the household finances. He only showed up with his camera and his passport.  He is not romantic at all on vacation, only busy with his picture. He labeled me as his  lovie-dovie assistant to carry his stuff. I love traveling but I am not complaining about the arrangement. I cooked. He cleaned and did laundry because he likes to have it his way.

I started to get depressed from being alone in a relationship... and him bossing me passively. He started accusing me of  being changed  and he didn't recognize the strong, attractive american lady that I was before.
I am getting more depressed.
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Now the awful part of the situation.
I found out that he started an affair with a young girl from a Caribbean country that we both met on vacation. He decided to help her by paying her school. I accepted because that's what I do , helping others. I love that. I am a volunteer in the soul.
3 years ago when we returned to that country to see our protégée's family and to spend some time with, I caught the girl in our room, her head in his pants. My first reaction was to take a picture and I left them.
He never said anything. He never validated my feelings up until today.  I never had any explanation. Horrible 2 weeks of holidays.
the day that we left, I fainted at the airport. The airport staff blamed the heatwave. I had terrible pain  during the 11 hour flight to Paris. I vomited on the Thalys from Paris to Antwerpen. I spent a night with excruciating pain and finally I went to the hospital. The test revealed that I have been poisoned. After a month at the hospital, He said to me, it's better that you go to America to have support system and to be with your family. When you will feel better, you will come back to Belgium and we will start on a new slate.

He wanted to push me away  in order not to press charges and for his entourage (family, work)  not to know his dirty actions.
in the meantime, my situation got worsened. I underwent several surgeries. I lost part of my colon. I have a cane, crutches and sometimes wheelchair when traveling. I have been recognized as a
"Belgian Disabled Public servant"
I have to tell you that he never encourages me to get better treatment in Belgium. He wants me to stay in America.

On March 2020, the first day of the Corona outbreak, he called me to tell me that he has a girlfriend in South Africa that he met online and he would like to have her coming to live with him but the Consulate of Cape Town is asking why I am still registered at this address. He wanted me to sign a paper saying that he is not romantically involved with me.
I said what do you mean? He said that he removed me from the domestic partnership because I was not there. He waited for me and I never came. After 3 years he had to move on and he did it since september 2018. He went  multiple times on vacation to SA to meet her. Her adult children that I have raised during visitation rights and brought on vacation, cooked, cleaned and helped with their homework in french until the age of 18 met this woman.
I have to tell you that nobody in his side of the family ever returned my phone call when I was in despair.

I could not believe my ears? I cried a lot when I realized, he chose this pandemic moment to speed my health deterioration knowing that the USA went on lockdown without possibilities of going to hospitals because it has been reserved for COVID patients. He insinuated if I didn't write and legalize the paper for the consulate, he will throw away my memorabilia all my vacation memories, all my stuff. He would have gone to the City Hall to let them know that I abandoned the residence and there is nothing i can do  about it. That's his word against mine...and  he concluded " you are not here, right?"

I scanned him the paper he asked for.

The same day, I wrote to the embassy with a copy to the City Hall explaining the whole situation like you have been read, including

medical record .....
statement from the airport
disability statement as a Public Servant
screenshot of conversations between him and the teen age girl giving her promises
picture of girl on 14 of February 2017 giving him sexual favors
screenshots of our conversation showing his dirty  and manipulative actions.

Both the consulate and the city Hall  wrote me back and said that they are taking this into consideration and they wish me good health .

I called the consulate 2 times to tell my sorrow and my frustration. Last week they said they are not granting visa during Corona crisis...but they can't tell anything about this particular case.

Since then, I have been frustrated because I don't think it's fair if the consulate will grant a visa  "some day" to this person. I am not blaming this Lady. She is also a victim but does she know that or will the consulate allow that to occur again?

Note:  he has a history of asking for visas and marries exotic women to give them papers and to leave them after. (sound like illegal activity but in reality, he just used vulnerable people and the system). He will go his way...anyway for his conquest.
I have been told there is an article in the Belgian law called immigration abuse.

I am a Belgian American. He is a Belgian. She is another nationality living in South Africa. South Africans do not need visas for Belgium.

Now Dear People,
What are the odds of granting  a visa to this woman ?
Do you think with all the misfortune and damage done to me, justice will be served.

Thank you for your time.

Thank you to anyone who has knowledge or experience about immigration for reassuring me.