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momingxiang wrote:

Yazan_Dababneh,Thank you,but you think the right way is to聽 forget him, yes?

You might not forget him all your life, but you will feel better about yourself with time. and you will accept that story as part of your sacred history which made all you are.

Rami80 wrote:

Dear momingxiang,
Thanks for sharing with us, and hope you will be able to figure out what is best for you and him. It seems from your description that you are not sure about his feelings and intentions, and you start to suffer and lose faith in this relationship. Few things that I would like to share with you:
1. I noticed from your profile that you are from china, keep in mind that remote communications are not optimal and you are lacking certain aspects of proper communications.聽 聽
2. I would say its better to confirm your doubts first and to up front him with your feelings and ask him where he can see things going...do not make actions based on uncertain feelings
3. Once you confirm his feelings and intentions...it is time to asses if that's what you are looking for or not. if you think he is playing around,while you have been honest and straight with him, then clearly you are not in mutual relationship and you will be suffering as you offer him much more than what you get. Ending this relationship then would be for your best interest.
4. As others have advised you to forget about him, which is certainly something to consider, and I sense you have been thinking about that but you seek some support. However, the only person to decide that would be you and hopefully with him, and the only person to suffer the consequences would be you and him. To me if by forgetting him you and him suffer shortly and then things move on then that's a reasonable option, if one or both of you will be suffering for long time then reconsider..
5. I think what you describe will apply to any relationship anywhere that fact that you are Asian and he is Jordanian would add complexity but should not be the base of your judgment
6. keep in mind that all discussions her will involve a third person (your BF) and he is absent and cant defeat himself or clarify his point of view which is unfair, so please keep thinking about him as you usually do.
Hope you all the best
Rami

Dear thank you for your suggestions,they are very helpful.
He always come to china.And we contact on line. He have a wife.So i keep distance from him.
But after several times meeting, i find i fell love with him.Every time he left i feel very sad. But he say nothing.
So i do not know what to do

Rami80 wrote:

Dear momingxiang,
By knowing that he is married, i have to agree completly with Primadonna. You are entering a very complicated path where many people will end up suffering.. so please consider her advice
if you dont mind, can I ask about your age, do you work or study, and is this the first time you are in a relationship or you have emtions for someone?... I have the feeling that you are still young and this might be one of your first experiances...so be patient, you will have better chances in future
Regard,

Yes i was young...i just work for 2 years.
At first time, i keep distance from him.But after several meeting, i find fell love with him.